The news of the passing of Cambodian playwright Samithi Sok swept across the Phnom Penh community as a surging wave of sadness and remembrance. Kumnooh sat down at Cappadacio in Tuol Tom Pong with Sami’s friend, collaborator and theatrical co-conspirator Marika Els to talk about where they’ve been and where things are going next. There was coffee, laughter, wine, tears and resolve in the air; here are some of the words that were shared.
The first time I met Sami it was at Bong Bonlai, at auditions for his first play, 12-8, which was being put on by Phnom Penh Players – as I was on the PPP committee I knew some of the background. Initially I didn’t want to be involved in the show, and I only went along to try out for the part of the drunk lady – only one monologue and a few lines, easy. I was approached to be Assistant Director because as a first time director he needed a mentor. I said I’d think about it. As it happened, the audition was recorded, Sami gave me really good notes, and I had no idea that this encounter would escalate and grow into one of the best friendships I’ve ever had. It was not even hours later that I agreed to become the Assistant Director. Best decision I’ve ever made. 12/8 was such a huge success, I was so proud of him.
It was such a learning curve – me and Sami figuring things out. At some point he had to go to Singapore; we had the cancer conversation, how it was going to impact the show, and we had to be open and honest with each other. We became friends really quickly, there was a very quick bond, and the respect was there very early on.
We worked together very closely – he would share his vision with me and I would go make that happen. Even when he was unwell he would still come, show up whenever possible. I was the organic voice of reason, while he would insist on doing the Meisner exercise again and again. I hate it, but I did it even when he wasn’t there, because he loved it.
The second play, Wind Up Mice, was originally done in the UK as part of an online university project, and he rewrote it to be staged in Phnom Penh. I agreed to doing so many things before even reading it – yes, let’s do it, I’m co-directing, yes I’m producing, yes I’m doing costumes, yes I’m doing make-up, yes I’m doing props, yes, yes, yes. And he asks me have I read the play? Sure. I’ve read one page. Once I did finally read it I adored it, it was so dark. Wind Up Mice taught us a lot, we did everything by ourselves. He was really stressed, we had a bunch of first time actors, it was an independent show with no backers. Still, it played to full houses.
He needed to push out as much work as possible while he could, and I was there to make it happen. When he couldn’t drive I had to drive. He was extremely passionate, a bright light. His enthusiasm was infectious and his creativity fuelled my creativity. His vocabulary was staggering. He had so much love – for theatre, for people, for his friends, for his family. He was worried for his family at the end, making sure they were okay. And he was really concerned about his last play, The Thousand Deaths of Dignity. My play needs to happen! They need to read me in universities! And I said I don’t know about the universities, but I can make your plays happen.
He brought people together, and through his sheer dedication and passion for theatre he brought people together, and people became friends because of him. I made a new friend because of him – his mentor Lizzie Hodge, drama teacher at ISPP and a major influence in his life – and Lizzie and I will be making the last play happen, she as director of movement and myself as director of acting. It’s a very deep look into Sami’s mind. For a man of only 22, the insights that he had, the maturity of his work – quite beyond his years.
Every time we spoke we would tell each other how much we loved each other. And all I wish is to hear that one more time. I want to talk about theatre with him, about our crushes, our hopeless, hopeless crushes. I want to talk about food, I want to talk about death and I want to talk about life. We spoke about all those things, and we knew dark secrets, deeper thoughts that were hard to share with anyone else.
We thought we had months, but it was just weeks, two weeks maybe, at the most. He was in severe pain. He asked me about the already scheduled reading of The Thousand Deaths of Dignity – if I can’t do it can you take over? I had expected a collaboration, but when I got the message I knew time was running out.
The drunk lady monologue from 12-8 starts like this: Love! What’s love anyway? And she goes into a heartbroken cynical rant. Now I would say love is Samithi Sok. He lived so passionately, so deeply. He felt so much. We know but a fraction of what he felt, when you read the play there’s so much more coming out. He was very strong. We could all learn from him – not to be stoic, but to live well despite the challenges. Everyone loved him, he was just a nice guy to get along with.
When I saw him last he was ready to go, he wasn’t scared anymore. He said he could feel his body shutting down. He wants to come back as a rich white woman’s dog that she can wear in a bag, so he can be spoiled. I’m not sure I can afford it, but I would be down to buy a dog to spoil and call Sami.
The light is leaking out of my heart. I should make a painting, a broken heart with light and words leaking out of it. I can almost hear him and I can almost see him, but it’s very quiet. I just want everyone to remember this young genius. One of the biggest honours and privileges of my life to be able to say I was Samithi Sok’s co-director. The Khmer Times called him the Cambodian Shakespeare of our time – he would be so bashful and so pleased.
See also: It happens once: Samithi Sok’s joy of theatre, from May 2023